fathers that Haven’t earnt the title

Please explain to me this.

Why do you bad fathers check out of your children’s lives?

Like your checking out of a grocery aisle.

Why do you bad fathers always play the song that.

‘’You don’t know what’s going on in my life”.

‘’I never had my own father’’.

So Einstein  why do you choose to repeat the same song when you know your gonna get the same rhythm?

Why do you bad father’s think it’s up to the woman to take all the load?

 Do you not know their not Hercules that it will definitely break their back?

The simple answer.

There is no explanation.

But what I’ll say there’s a lack of education and motivation in certain communities about this issue which really needs  to  be urgently address,  because it’s  a hidden  epidemic which is plaguing our society more than what is reported in  current news.

I remember when I was a councillor in  London,  and I attended a community action  meeting, and a young boy said infront of attendees ,that ‘’I wouldn’t know my father if I passed him on the street, and that a bad father is better  no father’’.

He reduced most people in that room to infant tears , and some of them  were grown adults with senior positions in the community.

I just want to point how sad has  society come to ,when a boy would even prefer a bad father than an absent one.

And I get it   in a way at least if he’s in the picture.

 You could remember his face not view him as a passing stranger.

But I truly want to applaud the good fathers out there because there still is a lot of them out there who don’t get their props.

But sadly having a good and present father is like the  lottery you pray your one of the lucky ones  able to hit the jackpot ,but life sadly  doesn’t always work out that way.

I applaud men who don’t make excuses who may have had a hard life, but refuse to inflict their pain on their innocent offspring.

Even a case from a  teenager  on an episode of  ‘’The Steve Wilko’s’’ show who was in a gang doing atrocious acts.

He was brought on the show by his mum  as she was running out of options to save his life.

He calmly confronted his father, and said that the one thing he wished was for his absent father to take him out fishing and to learn how to ride a bike.

So it later dawned on me that at times actions of  teen angst  is the loudest forms of a desperate  cry for help.

And we as a society we  should not  ignore it,even if the ‘’so-called’’ fathers choose to.

What I would say also is us  women too we should also be more careful  of the  choices that we  make in the bedroom,we   should treat having a child with a partner as a decision that were  making in the boardroom.

Why I say that when your you consider all options and outcomes you will then think more objectively and practically  about   bringing a child  into the world.

I’m tired of seeing single women aged by  the stress of being the sole provider, and bearing the trauma they go through behind closed doors and open doors  in regards to dealing with their disillusioned children.

I’ll just say men if the weapon in your pants you want to use for mass destruction keep it contained until  you know how to use it wisely.

Also the  topic of the’’ generational curse’’ which is always associated with neglectful father.

Why don’t we rephrase it to’’ generational blessing’’?

Why don’t you say  I will do the opposite of what happened to me in life , and I will  give my child a better start than I did.

They always say  about  children falling  through the cracks due to neglect.

Why do you  bad fathers choose to be the hammer that shatters these children.